Incase your spouse deny you of s*x or
wants you to ask for it always, here are
some ways you will make her Beg for it.
1. Her Man’s Appearance
Men are usually considered to be the most
turned on by visual stimuli (think about it:
how many strip clubs and adult magazines
are actually targeted toward females?), but
women are actually quite turned on by a
man’s face, body and movement as well,
say Meston and Buss.
“S*xually, women are attracted to men with
masculine features, although not too
masculine,” Meston explains. “A little light
stubble is usually a turn-on for women if
it’s clean and well-kept. body-wise, women
generally find men with a V-shaped torso
or a high shoulder-to-hip ratio s*xually
attractive.
Motion is important, too, as women find
athletic prowess and agility to be s exual
turn-ons.” The bottom line: If you’d like to
get her in the sack, a good first step to
take might be getting yourself into the gym.
2. The Time Of Day
Meston says that women are very
individualized in terms of when they most
prefer to get it on: “In general, women want
to have s*x when they feel their best —
when they have energy, feel connected to
their partners, aren’t distracted by work or
stressful daily events, and when they feel
s*xy — and that may or may not be at
night.”
In order to figure out when a woman’s most
likely to be in the mood, pay attention to
the times she seems the most energized
and/or chilled out. Try thinking outside the
box — you may find that she’d love a post-
jog quickie right before her shower!
3. Certain Smells
Meston and Buss explain that, for women,
sense of smell is far more important than it
is to men when it comes to s exual
attraction. Simply put: if a woman doesn’t
like the way a man smells, it’s often a
deal- breaker — whether she consciously
realizes it or not.
The number one turn-off reported by most
women is — not surprisingly — bad breath,
says Buss. A woman’s sense of smell also
plays an interesting biological role in what
attracts her to a man, according to Meston:
“Olfactory signals provide a woman with a
wealth of information about a man’s
health, hygiene, and even his genetic
makeup,” she notes.
Pheromones — tiny airborne molecules that
humans emit from various glands in their
body — can influence a woman’s desire to
be s*xually intimate with a man. Male
pheromones have been shown to provide
information on a man’s symmetry, which is
an indicator of genetic fitness and
ultimately can determine whether a man is
genetically compatible with a woman. “For
many women — whether they realize it or
not — scent can play an important role in
determining her willingness to have s ex
with a man, given her ‘sense’ of whether
they can produce genetically healthy,
strong children together,” says Buss.
4. Her Guy’s Choice Of Words
Often, what a man says is more important
than what he does when he’s trying to get
a woman in the mood. “Offering
compliments is usually a sure-fire way of
making someone want to get closer…
although, if the compliments come across
as insincere, they will actually turn her off,”
says Meston. To score extra sincerity
points, make references to future activities
you’d like to do together, explains Meston,
noting that showing signs of commitment
can often be s exually alluring to women.
Buss also notes that a man with a sense of
humor is also a s exual turn- on for the
ladies: “If a man can make a woman laugh,
it relaxes her and makes her feel that he
‘gets’ her,” he says, adding that a good
sense of humor also conveys some key
qualities women want in a mate:
intelligence (it’s hard to be witty if you’re
not too bright), the ability to gauge her
emotional and social perspective (a.k.a.
having the mind-reading skills to know
what she will find amusing), and social
verve or confidence.
5. The Need For Revenge
In their research, Meston and Buss found
that many women had “revenge s*x” with
someone other than their most recent
dating partner to get back at a cheating
partner or to “even the score,” as some
women put it. “Some women hoped their ex
would find out about it and feel angry or
hurt, and other women said they didn’t care
if they found out or not — they felt better
just knowing they had gotten revenge,”
Meston explains.
Why is the need for revenge such a turn-on
for women? “Revenge can serve two basic
functions,” Buss*xplains. The first function
is one of deterrence: just as bullies stop
picking on victims who retaliate, cheating
partners sometimes stop their illicit
activities when the other person retaliates
in kind.
The second function of revenge is
“reputation management,” says Buss.
“Women who are scorned sometimes suffer
damage to their social reputation, whether
they are cheated on or dumped. Having s*x
— especially if it is with someone who is
relatively high in ‘mate value’ — can
sometimes help to restore a woman’s
reputation,” he explains.
6. Genetics
Women prefer men whose MHC genes (or
Major HistoCompatibility genes) are
dissimilar to their own, because this is the
set of genes involved in determining an
individual’s immune function. “Having
children with men who are dissimilar
produces children with healthier immune
systems,” Buss explains. “Astonishingly,
women seem to be able to pick this up
through sense of smell, especially at ovula
tion, if they are not on hormonal
contraceptives.”
7. Her Physical Health Or Well-being
If you’re looking for a few good reasons
why she should have s*with you, there are
countless ways in which you can emphasize
that “getting busy” would be a wise move
for her health. “During orgasm, opiates —
the bo dy’s natural painkillers — are
released, which can help decrease all sorts
of aches and pains for women,” Meston
explains.
S*x can also help maintain the body’s
flexibility and cardiovascular health,
decrease anxiety, and enhance overall
mood. Additionally, Meston notes, having
s*x during menstruation decreases a
woman’s risk of experiencing endometriosis
symptoms. Of course, s*x (if it lasts long
enough!) can also be a good calorie burner,
so you can always suggest it as a fantastic
way to burn off the chocolate cheesecake
you shared for dessert.
8. To Raise Her Social Status Or Sense Of
Self-esteem
In their research, Meston and Buss found
that, for some women, having s*x is more
about competition and winning (see who
went home with the good-looking guy at
the bar?). For women that do this to
compete with others and also raise their
social standing, her intended target’s social
status is a key factor in revving her libido.
“Young women who are ‘groupies,’ for
example, often compete to see who can
have s ex with the musician who has a
higher status, while Monica Lewinsky raised
her status by having an intimate
connection with the President,” Buss says.
She goes on to explain that, for women who
have s ex to raise their self-esteem, the
motivating factor is usually the need to feel
s exually desirable.
“Some women suffer from low self-esteem
and feel bad about their bo dies for a
variety of reasons, ranging from
comparisons with media models to put-
downs by their regular mates,” explains
Buss. Having s ex with a man who finds
her irresistibly hot and her bo dy incredibly
beautiful can provide a huge boost to a
woman’s self-esteem — so if you’re looking
for a little loving, make her feel like she’s
the s*xiest woman on the planet!
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